Monthly Archives: May 2013

Anarchy flanked by Ignorance and Violence.

Lots if snails!

Went for a run and on my way back I helped some snails cross the road.

Just made it to the cabin in VA. So super nice. Makes up for having to wreak a path of death and destruction on all the bugs here. #nasty

This is me after reading the CUAA election results email.

Thrilled to be elected to the Cooper Union alumni association council w such productive colleagues. @literaryanimal @slavin_fpo @jfleeper!

On the road! Vacation, you are so worth the 16 hrs of overtime logged over the last 3 days.

Mother’s Day

Nine made me a Mother’s Day card this year in school. It’s AMAZING. it’s also my first ever nod from the little dudes on a Mother’s Day. And it felt more than amazing. It felt like crying, and it felt like ratcheting down those tears so sweet Nine didn’t think he’d done something wrong.


Step-parenting is a really weird thing. In my situation, I’m doing all the things a mom would do – the homework checks, the dinner prep, the hugs and kisses, the love, the reprimands, the ferry service, the career day at school, the ball games, finding summer camps, talking over problems with other kids, the chats over meals – but they HAVE a perfectly wonderful ACTUAL mom, so as much as I also love and care for these kids, well. There’s not usually a Mother’s Day for me.

And you know?

That’s totally fine with me. I know these dudes love me. I don’t need a Hallmark holiday contributing to the fetishization of the mom to appreciate what I do – maybe because, as a step-parent, I CHOSE this level of engagement. I decided to be this kind of person in their lives. And I went into it expecting it to be outside of the traditional recognition categories. Traditionally there’s usually evil stepmoms, you know? There’s no holiday for that.

But when the sweetest Nine you know gives you a card that he made in school, which means he was thinking about you when you’re apart, and which says sweet things inside – holy cow. I squeed in the quietest, coolest way possible.

But guys! I got a Mother’s Day card!


Vacation alert for tomorrow! 27 hours to kickstands up!

That day before vacation where you wake w a full to do list at work and only 5 hrs sleep. If ONLY I were making donuts.

I think it was snowing on my home. Good thing we’re heading south … Motorcycle vacation starts day after tomorrow!

Worked to 11pm, stopped for freezer food dinner to follow late afternoon chzdoodles. Pierogie and $1-burritos, you are in me. #stresseating

We got a hundred Peter Cooper’s up in the presidents office today. @FreeCooperUnion @pleasedontfront @CaseyG

wait, that’s it?! @FreeCooperUnion, seriously, put your pants on. a passel of trustees and one president are on their way.

TRIANGLE SHIRTWAIST FACTORY FIRE IN THE HOUSE! @FreeCooperUnion you tell Jake Lee for me HIGH FIVES. please.

“I have strong relationships with all of the top alumni donors…” SO FAR. what about the cultivation of new ones that are ticked off?

Were I a huge donor I would be put off to hear that cooper union was carefully cultivating me and developing my relationships. #catsoutofbag

.@pleasedontfront I heart your parents.

Had our first motorcycle ride of the year! @mikegrundy is the funnest.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms and mom-types of the @FreeCooperUnion kids, who have clearly raised their children right.